Test of marital satisfaction and sexual relations in the family.


Test marital satisfaction

often the most serious problem of family intimacy between husband and wife is a lack of knowledge of sexual partners of each other's needs, and at the same time, more and ability to talk about them.We hope the proposed questionnaires - the test for marital satisfaction and sexual satisfaction test - will help you to understand and correct the "roughness" in your relationship.

• Test of marital satisfaction and sexual relations

In order to have got together to talk, discuss your needs and requirements to offer sex to analyze your couple sexual satisfaction.Because it is often because of dissatisfaction with sex derives most of the problems in the relationship of the spouses, including household and relationship to children.To do this, you both need to pass a test on marital satisfaction (authors VV Stolin, T. Romanova, GP Butenko) and test for sexual gratification.

• How do I take the tests?

Test marital satisfaction Both tests evaluating sexual relations in the family, partners must be conducted in parallel, but separately from each other.In addition, each determines its own level of satisfaction with sexual relationships and answers questions for specifying the spouses.After completing the test partners need to discuss in detail the answers to each other's questions and to analyze sexual satisfaction partner by the results of the test questionnaire satisfaction in marriage.It is important to not only gauge how much razbezhnosti discuss, comment on their answers and listen to the arguments of the partner.

is very important and it is necessarily a fresh discussion of the results of the test questionnaire!You need to be reasonably and safely express and listen to all your claims on a particular test answer the question.Listen carefully to comments on this subject your mate, and discussed the situation, to come to the general conclusion, to find a compromise in order to rectify the situation.

WARNING!It is important to fill the test is fair, pointing your real experiences and feelings, rather than trying to make a nice partner / partner.Do not worry about what your response might get upset and frustrate your mate!Do not try to flatter and please each other!You are adults and must take this step consciously, to know each other better, figure out your needs in the intimate sphere and figure out how to make the needs and requirements of both were satisfied.

  • TEST marital satisfaction

sexual relationship Actually the results of this test allow marriage satisfaction questionnaire to judge in what general emotional, moral and psychological state is one of sexual partners.From which, in turn, depends on their attitude to marriage, domestic duties, solving everyday problems, relationship to the children and other family members.

The test questionnaire is 24 statements, each of which correspond to the three possible answers, namely: a) true b) false, c) I do not know, or in a different order and in somewhat different terms.Each of the subjects, reading questions should express through these judgments disagreement or agreement with the relevant proposals statements.Remember that it is important to answer honestly and sincerely!

And so, the test questionnaire marriage satisfaction (VV Stolin, T. Romanova, GP Butenko):

  • 1. When people live together for a long time, as it happens in a marriagethey inevitably over time lose their sharpness of perception of each other and mutual understanding between the two is definitely disrupted to some extent:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) do not know.

  • 2. Your relationship with husband / wife bring you mostly:

a) anxiety and suffering,

b) satisfaction and joy,

c) difficult to answer.

  • 3. Your friends and relatives your marriage is evaluated as:

a) very successful,

b) bad,

c) cross.

  • 4. If you had the opportunity, would you have changed that much in the character of your husband (wife):

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) are notI know.

  • 5. One of the challenges of any modern marriage is that everything in it becomes less attractive over time, and sexual relations in the family, including:

a) agree,

b)disagree,

c) it is difficult to say.

  • 6. If you compare your family life with her husband (wife) and family life of your friends and acquaintances, then you come to the conclusion that:

a) you are unhappy friend,

b)you are happier than others,

c) it is difficult to say.

1.

  • 7. Do you think that the life of a loved one and no family - too high a price for the absolute independence and freedom:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 8. I believe that the life of my husband (wife) without me would be incomplete and unhappy in full:

a) agree,

b) does not agree,

c)I do not know.

  • 9. Most of the people are deceived in their expectations for marriage and family relationships:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) it is difficult to say.

  • 10. You have long been meditating a divorce, and a number of specific circumstances interfere with the final decision in his favor:

a) is true,

b) absolutely wrong,

c)Difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 11. Imagine that you had to remarry.Your spouse (wife) in this case would be:

a) a completely different person,

b) the same person, my real husband (real wife),

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 12. I am proud of the fact that next to me is a man like my husband (my wife):

a) agrees (agree),

b) incorrect,

in) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 13. Disadvantages of my "half" outweigh unfortunately merits of his (her) character:

a) is true,

b) wrong.

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 14. The main hindrances to our happy married life are the character traits of my husband (wife):

a) agree,

b) does not agree,

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 15. Initial feelings that you experience being married to that person, only increased with time:

a) agree,

b) does not agree,

c) do not know.

  • 16. By itself, the marriage, in your opinion, and reduces the possibility of human creativity:

a) fully agree (agree),

b) it is not,

c)Difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 17. My husband (wife) has the weighty dignity, which more than offset the shortcomings of his character:

a) agree,

b) does not agree,

c) difficult to answer unambiguously.

  • 18. In our marriage my husband (wife) with emotional support to each other, unfortunately, the situation is not all right:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

in) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 19. I believe that my husband (wife) often makes some nonsense: irrelevantly says, inappropriate jokes and stuff:

a) agree,

b) does not agree,

c) it is difficult to say.

  • 20. Our family lives on my will depend very little:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 21. My married life was not the way I imagined (imagined):

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) do not know.

  • 22. Anyone in the family are entitled to the respect of the rest of the family to her:

a) is true,

b) is not true,

c) it is difficult to say in different waysIt happens.

  • 23. Society my husband (wife), as a rule, always gives me pleasure:

a) is true,

b) is not true,

c) difficult to answer unequivocally.

  • 24. In my family life is not a single moment of light is not, and was not:

a) is true,

b) incorrect,

c) not sure.

• Analysis and evaluation of the test results on marital satisfaction

answering all the questions you need to evaluate the result, calculated the total number of points.This can be done by comparing the selected answer key options (those answers are given below).If there is a match, then this answer will receive 2 points.When elected interim answer (ie option "c") is assigned 1 point.But for a response that does not coincide with the intermediate option with any key - 0 points.

  • List of key responses: 1b, 2b, For, 4b, 5b, 6b, 7a, 8a, 9b, 10b, 11b, 12a, 13b, 14b, 15a, 16b, 17a, 18b, 19b, 20b, 21b,22a, 23a, 24b .

Count received scores and totals vote your marriage satisfaction and your spouse (wife):

0-16 points - absolute dissatisfaction with personal and sexual relationships in the family;

17-22 score - substantial dissatisfaction with marriage;

23-26 points - you're more dissatisfied than satisfied.

27-28 points - relationships can be defined as equal to the degree of positive or negative psycho-emotional state.That is a partial satisfaction, and partial dissatisfaction with marriage.

29-32 score - you're more satisfied with the marriage than are satisfied.

33-38 points - essential marital satisfaction.

39-48 points - almost absolute satisfaction in personal and intimate relationships.

evaluating the test results, be sure to perform the analysis of the sexual satisfaction of each of you.Particularly worthy of discussion questions, answers which are not in line with either the key or the intermediate variants.Try not to react to irritation or annoyance to the answer that you did not expect to receive from your partner.Be patient and understanding to the opinion of its halves.

  • DO YOU HAVE SEX satisfaction (TEST)?

Young couple

This test is the sexual satisfaction of intimacy with your partner will help flesh out the need for sex and possible differences in views on sex.Answering questions in parallel and comparing the answers, be sure to discuss each response does not coincide with the answer / her spouse.

The proposed issue is necessary to select only one answer.You need to try to be as objective as possible, and most importantly to yourself and choose the option best suits you better.

test for sexual satisfaction:

  • 1. How do you feel about the experiment in bed?

A. This happens very rarely, and I was quite satisfied.We partner sometimes experimenting with some new poses.
B. I do not like, I have quite conservative views.
B. Of course, like the variety in sex should be mandatory.

  • 2. What usually happens after sex?

A. Nothing, just go to bed and fall asleep faster.
B. Mentally rejoice that "conjugal duty" executed, and I can be free (free) from sex for the next few days.
B. Lying ponder, public places or positions the next time you can have sex, how to diversify and enhance our sex.

  • 3. Do you discuss generally with their girlfriends / friends about their sex life?

A. Yes, but I often just listen than to tell something myself (myself).
B. Do it happens, but I'm very embarrassed to talk about it.
B. constantly talking, as you can share experiences or get new ideas for sex.

  • 4. What is your attitude to sexual underwear?

A little there, it was bought for the occasion.
B. totally indifferent.This underwear is very impractical.
Q. I just delighted with sexual underwear.I wear it quite often over even without cause.

  • 5. Question for women: If during sex with a partner suddenly lost an erection, what you feel about it and how to respond?

A. Are you frustrated and it can pin your partner, though without rancor.
B. Experiencing the hidden joy, because now finally be able to sleep peacefully.
B. We are sure that in this situation there is absolutely nothing wrong and all deserve attention.You are always ready to excite your partner again.

  • Question for Men: How do you react if your desire to have sex, the wife refused, arguing that poor health and mood, and the like?

A. ignore the opinions and try to insist on his own, to persuade her to have sex, make sure that it has agreed - "in want."
B. resentment, and will think about sex with another.
V. prefer not to insist, to communicate, to comfort, to make her a massage, or prepare their own dinner and go there as ...

  • 6. How often do you have sex with your partner?

A. Relatively often, perhaps even less than we would like.
B. Probably, I would like a little less.
B. Quite often - sex does not happen much.

  • 7. Ever in your life did you use a vibrator?

A. It happens (or would like to), but from a partner, I'm open about it.
B. Never.I do not accept such a flatly.
Q. Yes, quite often (or even included in the joint sexual play with a partner).

• Analysis of sexual satisfaction

Now count the number of responses received by categories: A, B, C, and determining any possible answers most, vote results and then discuss the differences in the views and sexual preferences.

If A larger number of responses - this means that a certain dissatisfaction with their partner or having sex with him in your relationship is still there.Perhaps in recent years your sex life has become somewhat boring, predictable, repetitive, and you do not have enough new bright sensations.Try to find and eliminate the cause of your dissatisfaction with sex.Try to talk with your partner about your feelings, to analyze in detail the answers to the test, together you will be much easier to understand and correct the situation.

If the answer is b greater number - it says that you are absolutely not satisfied with their sexual lives.In this case, with high probability we can say that in this situation you blame a partner.But as the practice shows, completely unsatisfied sex people do this and blame.You probably do not even try to somehow solve this problem, most likely you simply ignore it.Strangely, even that you have passed the test, unless you have a partner is not asked to do it.