Psychosexual development of children between the ages of nine and twelve
At this age, a child should be taught self-control.This way of thinking will also help to limit the exaggerated self-importance, which appears in the teenage years.During this period, special attention should be paid to the education of high moral and sexual as a child until he is not subject to the hormonal surge that will soon awaken his sexual needs.
mind, focus on healthy emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code , related to sexual health and moral character.At this stage, it is important to teach children how to control their emotions in general and especially those that are inherent in their sexual health and the development of moral character.The only way they can understand, that any emotions are designed to give information or to warn of the dangers, and to help make the right decisions.The time spent on the education of emotional culture of the teenager, will not be lost, because in this period laid the foundation for his growing up, when emotions will affect unpredictable hormones.
- child asks many questions.
- Masturbation at home or in other secluded places - not uncommon at this age, as long as it was not a violent or a means of stress relief How to beat stress?Create an oasis .At this stage, masturbation may be unrelated to lust or sexual fantasies.
- role of "dad" and "mom" in games may be innocent, but you must follow the scenes on sexual topics.It is important to know that "playing doctor" can harm sexual development of the child.
developmental tasks for child
- Explain the meaning of "manifest moral principles."
- Emphasize the importance of exercise.
- Train mental abilities of the child means "stop thinking" (getting rid of the negative thoughts) and "replace the thought" (switch from negative to positive).
- necessary that a relationship of trust with the child support the parent of the same sex as a teenager.The boys need to communicate with their fathers and girls - with their mothers.Spiritually, such a relationship may develop parent-child relationship.
How to contribute to the development of sexuality and morality at this stage
- Try to keep your child's friends gathered in your home under your supervision.
- Think of this period as another excellent opportunity to make friends with the child.
- Prepare the child for the coming manifestations of growing up, talk to him about what specific changes in its expected (depending on gender): women - menstrual cycle menstrual cycle and its response , breast growth, the appearance of pubic hair and soFurther, men - to change the voice, the appearance of facial hair, pubic hair, and so on.
- Stay empathetic performing parental role.
- cases Talk about your own life, considering the child's age.Talk to the children how you feel at that age and offer them a better alternative to discussing a bad choice you made in the past.
- tell children about sexual violence in the community, not intimidating excessive parental care.Talk to them about how you need to react before and after such incidents, how to protect themselves from violence and to prevent it.
- Do not allow a child to succumb to peer pressure and start to "meet" with a boy / girl.
- not allowed to wear immodest clothes.
- not let you watch movies with explicit sexual scenes.
- not let converge with older children.