- earlier sexual development of the child: a guide for parents
- Elementary School
sexual development of infants and toddlers, parents can seem very distant.But in fact, sexual development begins with the first years of a child's life.In infants and children aged one to three years, and even pre-school children of primary school age with time laid the foundation of emotional and physical sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality , and this is a very delicate process, invisible to the eye.
When children reach a tipping physical or emotional moment in his life (learning to walk, to know mom or dad), for them comes an important stage during which they recognize acquainted and feel part of your body and realize how to adapt to other people.Emotional connection formed in childhood, help prepare your child for affection and close relationship in the future.
Understanding how children grow and learn, parents can positively influence their emotional and physical development.
Infants and children aged one to three years
first emotional attachment babies - is the relationship with the parents, which is formed byphysical contact and express their love.Infants feel support positive physical manifestation of love when they were touched, worn on the hand, kiss, hug, tickle, or pressed.Exceptional kind of physical intimacy and emotional attachment between parent and baby is the basis for the formation of physical intimacy and love, which manifests itself later as part of a mature sexuality.
my body.Many parents go to the doctor, expressing concern that their children touch the genitals when they change a diaper (nappy) or, for example, boys often have their erection Erection - what hinders and what helps a man to be a man .Doctors believe that this behavior is perfectly normal, and argue that even infants inherent explore your body.Many children, especially those who are learning to walk, like to go without clothes.The reaction of the parents, their voice, used words, facial expression - one of the first lessons of sexuality to children.It is important not to react angrily, with surprise or disapproval.So you can teach children that the manifestation of curiosity to his body - a common occupation.
difference of the sexes.For two or three years the child begins to distinguish between a boy he or girl.This difference is called gender identity.A child at this age begin to understand the difference between boys and girls and can classify themselves as male or female.Some people believe that gender identity is predetermined biologically others - consider it a product of the growth and development of the child.Most likely, the gender identity - a combination of these two factors.
At this age, children also start to distinguish between some behaviors of men and women, the so-called gender roles.Gender roles - a product of our culture.What is peculiar to men?What is peculiar to women?What kind of behavior is typical of boys and men?What kind of behavior is typical for girls and women?When deciding what to teach children and what to tell them about gender roles, parents need to pay attention to the information that the child receives at home and abroad.
Preschool children (3-5 years)
Most preschool children feel confident boys or girls, and continue to explore their own bodies.Do not blame them for what they have to touch yourself, as this will lead to feelings of guilt and shame.Despite this, children need to explain that, although pleasant to touch themselves, this should not be done in public.Preschool children are old enough to understand that some actions should not be performed on humans, and that no one (family members or people who are trusted by the children) should not embarrass them by touching the intimate parts of the body.
Preschool children continue to learn from their parents manifestation of sexual relations Sexual relations: how to bring passion : starting with observing how adults react to a person of the opposite sex and to how adults react to nudity.
- endless questions
Preschool children are beginning to be interested in everything, asking parents a lot of questions, such as: "Where do babies come from?" Or "Why is my sister do not have a penis?".
task of parents - to answer the questions as accurately and honestly.The answer is "You brought the stork" does not quench the curiosity of the child, and the only cause mistrust of the parent when the child learns the truth (in the future, he or she is unlikely to come to the same person with similar issues).
necessary to find out what specifically interests of the child, and then to respond specifically to the question, without going into details that are superfluous.For example, it can be said that men and women make the child and that the child grows in the stomach of a woman.If this response will satisfy the child, you can not go into detail about how the child develops and is born.
- Games "in the doctor»
At this stage, children are not only fun to explore her body, but the body of others.If preschool children playing "doctor in" with their peers, the important task of parents - not overreact to innocent children's game (of course, if the game does not involve children or older adults, and should then be concerned).Easy enough to ask a child to get dressed and to distract him or her a toy or another game.Parents should take note that they are interested in information about the child's body, and should help to meet his curiosity in other ways, for example, read a children's book on the subject, written specifically for preschoolers.
- «Friends" and "girlfriend" preschoolers
Some parents of preschool children become anxious when they hear the children talk about friends and girlfriends.When a child uses these words, he or she does not give them the same value as adults.Most experts agree that the best possible reaction of parents - a manifestation of indifference (do not encourage such behavior, but did not express concern).