How to educate boys and girls: their complexity
- How to educate boys and girls: their complexity
few years ago on the social networking site Facebook was conducted a small survey.Members were asked to bring one better: boys or girls.All 265 respondents, except one, have confirmed that the boy was raised better than girls.But what is the difference between them.
And boy, and a girl - is, above all, people.The survey results make us think, do all feminist discourse so deeply ingrained in our consciousness that is now passed from generation to generation?For girls and boys placing so much the specific gender-oriented requirements, which can be assumed if the parents are still raising children, guided by gender stereotypes.It is a pity.In many ways, the girls were lucky - they can and dance and play basketball, and no one will tease or pester them.Unfortunately, our society is still prejudiced against the basketball in his spare time playing the flute or involved in contemporary dance.
main differences between boys and girls
first difference between boys and girls, which should be aware of parents, teachers and carers, and indeed all the adults involved in the child's upbringing Raising a child: who will win? , lies in the development of the brain of men and women.In particular, the intensity of this development.However, parents need to understand that they are raising the birth of sons and daughters differently, and many differences between them due to the influence of parents and society.For example, when a girl begins to walk, her parents would run to catch, if it stumbles, and a boy, on the contrary, encourage fall and get up.The same applies to the interest.Numerous studies, in which the children of both sexes conducted covert surveillance, found that both boys and girls are most interested in toys, focused on girls.It is clear that the desire to play with dolls, dress up Barbie and stuff is not encouraged in boys, although they can feel it and suppress.In fact, most of the differences between boys and girls are purchased by them in early childhood.
Interestingly, many parents believe that the huge difference between boys and girls is that boys do not listen to anyone, ever.They just obstinate or stubborn is genetically inherent in them?Scientists have proved that the boys heard worse than girls, and that girls are more receptive heard.In elementary school boys rumor comes in the "norm", but it still is not as sharp as in girls.It is particularly important that the studied range corresponding to the frequencies of the human voice.This partly explains why the boys need more visual learning with strict discipline.It is also interesting that parents often put in the corner moving boys than girls.
Today, many boys are diagnosed with behavioral disorders, such as attention deficit disorder attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) - to help fidget? or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.The percentage of boys with these disorders much more than girls, of which, again, we can conclude that the main difference between boys and girls is in their development.Since the boys develop more slowly (and worse hearing), girls are ahead of them in the development of language skills.Many factors can lead to the formation of a specific circuit for the slow development, which is seen by experts as a learning disability.The truth is that such behavior, although different from the behavior of girls, may be perfectly normal for a man as a species (that explains a lot, does not it?).
But in the physical development of boys outperform girls.While the girls sit quietly and read a book, or are considering, the boys explore the surroundings.The contemplative activity is simply not suitable for a developing boy's mind.The boys want to know the world is not with the stories of other people, and their own experience.They also seek to leave a trace, at least to influence the world, so pull pages from the book and then trying to put them together.This behavior can be seen as problematic, while in fact it is quite natural for the development of boys.Because all the boys need to feel, touch, analyze, to understand how it is arranged, so bring them more difficult, especially at first.
most important changes that distinguish boys from girls, account for the period prior to puberty Puberty child - stages of a complex path .Girls outperform boys both hormonal and psychological development.Add to this the rapid development of raging hormones - and is now more difficult to educate girls.Or they simply ahead of their peers, boys.Besides, hormonal changes in girls are greater than boys, and many researchers explain this riot girls student.Again, education is very important and attitudes that got the girl from her parents and environment.The girls are taught since childhood to be a "lady" and not give way to emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code , especially negative.While the girls resolve conflicts apology, boys sort things out in a fight.And this behavior is perfectly normal and acceptable - it's the boys, and boys are supposed to fight.As a result, girls are taught to restrain emotions, which often leads to emotional confusion, as with age they must also contain the hormones.
Obviously, under the pressure of the social environment of the girls' parents strictly follow the order to protect the daughters of communicating with the boys, and the dangerous consequences of this communication, such as pregnancy or sexual promiscuity.What about the boys in this regard .... Almost nothing.What do parents do when caught teenage son with "Playboy" in the hands?They laugh and in the worst case confiscate the magazine.If such a situation happen again with the girl's parents immediately sent her to a consultation with a therapist, because "it is something wrong."Therefore, the sexual development of girls is often accompanied by emotional turmoil, because they do not know how they should behave.Or another situation: the girl torn between her feelings, wants and needs, and by what it wants to see society and parents.Unfortunately, this contradiction can be deeply rooted in the minds of girls and disrupt its normal sexual development.