Aggressive children from two to five
There Korney Chukovsky the second book in which he collected the statements of children of this beautiful age.Many parents enroll their children of their statements, while maintaining a long time and they are periodically reading out the familiar.But, if the child's unusual remarks cause affection of others, the non-standard behavior scares and regarded negatively.However, both are phases of formation of the child.
Causes of aggression of children from two to five years
Probably not parents who are not faced with the manifestation of stubbornness, persistence and intrusiveness of their children.The child grows up and tries to realize himself as an independent personality, which manifests itself in the quest for self-reliance and the desire to do everything yourself, as opposed to parents who wish to, for example, put the baby quickly.
other causes of children's aggression in this age - the desire to have all that like, including a toy in the hands of other children, and on the shelves.Here the role of parents is very important, as children read from their faces the ban and resolution, as well as know what they really think about it.Parents need to be patient at the same time, calm and severe, and permanent.The stability and predictability of the reaction of parents in different situations - a guarantee of good behavior of the child.
At this age, children can not understand why they act as lead, a wave of anger by surprise themselves.Aggravating factors may be even the feeling of hunger, fatigue, discomfort.Attentive parents can observe and prevent or minimize aggression, just in time to feed him, warmer clothing, or put baby to sleep.The attention given by parents, and plays an important educational role, showing children how to behave in critical situations.
help cope with aggression
There are simple techniques to deal with the aggression of children from two to five years.
- Fairytale.The name of fashion, but in essence it's just reading the stories the child, followed by a discussion of the behavior of the characters and the conclusions about who did the right thing, and someone - no.Tales have to choose age-appropriate behavior and the child.You can ask any of these characters would like to be a child?Why is that?You can get very unexpected answers that will choose the right tactics to communicate with the child.
- games allow the child to direct his energy in the right direction, especially when he had not attend preschool institutions.Well there are games in which the child is allowed to tear the paper, break branches, pour cereal or sand tinker with water.One need only think of the story of the game and interested to take part in it.Games that are recommended by psychologists:
- Chants.Taking a walk through the woods or the park with the baby, away from people, you can arrange a competition: who shout louder, and you can shout and listen to the echo.In any case - the child learns to control his cry.
- Molchalki.In this game you need to make a noise until the master says "magic phrase" or show "magic mark" then everyone should shut up.
- Bodalki.Two baby or child-adult couple stand on all fours and abut their heads - who lasts longer, wins.Adults need, of course, to give in.
- Games with dolls when a child speaks and acts on behalf of the different characters.This helps him to remove aggression safely and visit the place of the offender and the offended.Parents can come up with different scenarios and play those situations in which the child hard to cope with anger.In the game, he will learn to do this and secure a useful skill.
Today, children are often provided by the computer and the TV, leave the tradition of reading at night, family discussions, reading and children's games, the child can not see in front of examples of proper suppression of anger.He sees the violence and fights on the TV screen and transfers them in real life.Create an atmosphere around the child's love and care, eliminate shouting and violence, and aggression is significantly reduced.