- What to tell your child about sex: how to start
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thinking about how to start a conversation with your child about sex and whether to do itremember that the main task of parents is not only (and not so much) to give the child a specific information about sex, intimacy and procreation.The main task of the parents to instill respect for the son or daughter.
- respect for the body - both their own and the other person;
- respect for the miracle of childbirth;
- Respect for the privacy of every person;
- Respect for the right to sexual life as their peers and parents, friends and relatives;
- respect to their future, and an understanding that sexual activity will have a huge impact on his future life;
- Respect the institution of marriage and the recognition that sexual relations outside of marriage are undesirable.
Some parents find that talking about sex with your child need when he reaches the age of puberty Puberty child - stages of a complex path , not before, but actually start raising sexual culture should almost fromdiaper.And the main condition of education of harmoniously developed personality in intimate terms - a harmonious sexual life of the parents to the existence of which they are not sanctimonious.The first time a child learns about sex, not when starting to ask questions, "Where did I come," and when the mother and father are standing over the crib suckling, embracing.When they are not ashamed of their tenderness and affection, thrust together.
child from birth is a sexual being.He takes pleasure in sucking the breast and body contact with parents, he examines the body and finds the erogenous zones.In many ways, children's attitude to the body, bodily pleasure, sex and procreation will depend on what kind of sample responses to all these phenomena will present his adult.A lot of information is transmitted non-verbally, and by default - because any default is full.Children feel great, some things cause parents to strain.They read the parental reaction gestures, facial expressions, and the smell of hormonal origin, which reflect our emotional state and are perceived subconsciously.And if mom and dad kissing the sudden appearance of a child nervous shudder if they ignore the specific issues - then most likely in older age any hints of sexual relations Sexual relations: how to bring passion will cause the child uncomfortableand in the future he will have to make an effort to more freely and happily accept the sexual sphere.
According to the observations of psychologists, if parents do not have much sexual complexes, and the children perceive this area is also very natural and relaxed.It is very important from an early age to introduce children to teach physiology and sexual health.Tell the children that conception Conception, ovarian cycle, fertilization and genetics baby comes as a result of sexual intercourse - is not the same as to teach them to have sex.Sex and sexual intercourse - is a lesson for adults only, so you can discuss them when the child is older and can better understand what he's told parents.
child from an early age should know the name of the genital organs (it is best to discuss this topic when bathing the child): the penis or the penis, vagina, or vagina.At this stage the child is not necessary to say that genital mutilation has a special mission - you just have to point out the difference between the sexes and give the names of the genitals.It is technically easier for you to talk further.Also, the child must learn to see and to touch them should not be no one else, and in some cases - the doctor or parents.It is necessary to give the baby to understand that, although the genitalia are not something bad or dirty, they are not intended for public viewing.When he learns to walk to the bathroom and do sexual health, parents should instill in him that if someone tries to touch it "out there", he has to fight, scream and be sure to report it to an adult.
For five years the children wakes up interest in the study of the body other peers, they are very interested in the physiological differences between the sexes.At this age, one of the favorite children's games - in the "doctor."There is nothing wrong if the kids are playing the same age and occupation takes place without violence.Playing doctor, children are introduced to the body of another person, receive joy and pleasure of bodily contact with peers, studying the relationship of subordination control.It is perfectly natural activity, a necessary stage of psychosexual development of the child, so parents do not have to come to the horror and indignation.In no case do not scold the child, do not say that he should be ashamed.Once again I remind them that no one should touch his private parts, and that it must respect other children.The same response should be the parent if the child is naked running around the house in the presence of strangers, or reveals his genitals to other people to see their response.If a child continues to behave in this way, despite repeated warnings of parents should take tougher measures, but this issue is not sexual promiscuity and disobedience and rebellion against parental authority.
In six or seven years, children begin to ask questions about sex.But these questions are still blurred, vague.For example, a kid can see in the film a love scene and ask, "What are they doing?" - This question is enough to say, "They love each other."Most likely, after a while there the theme of "children appear, because adults here and so like each other."Talking about the new complex things, like sex, use the "mini-trial response."That is, when a child is something you ask, answer simply and concisely - do not try to squeeze in a child immediately a whole range of information.Psychologists know from children, often parents tell them what they did not think to ask, and it's just confusing, and at times confusing.Let's take a small portion of correct information and be guided by the child's response.