method of education, "do as I say" is no longer effective.Have you ever carried out tests to determine the most appropriate methods of raising children in your family?Or you use the methods of education applied to you as a child?Did you say to yourself: "I would never bring up children as did my parents!" Or "My parents beat me, and nothing has happened to me, so I will use this method."Both of these options - knee-jerk reaction, not having any relation to the principles of proper parenting.
You might not even be interested in questions of education of children, as long as you are not with them in trouble.Suddenly, one day, it turns out that your parenting practices more than ineffective.Good parenting - not necessarily a natural process, and be a good parent - not necessarily easy.There are many skills that will help you be a good father or mother.To achieve excellence, you have to first find a suitable and, most importantly, an effective method and then apply it in practice.
parental education in the field of education becomes necessary in our time.
What results are expected from the use of positive parenting techniques?
- Eliminates the need for a flogging, timeouts and "house arrest";
- strategy instead of reward and punishment is used encouraging good behavior;
- apply effective methods to eliminate tantrums;
- parents find their method of education, which would be easy to apply and which would have given a positive result;
- help parents master the method of education, which would be effective in all phases of growing up the child;
- help children grow from responsible adults, who have found their place in the world.
There are three main categories of methods of education.Most parents are one of them, although there are mixed methods of education.
method of orders (instructions)
This authoritarian method of education.Authoritarian parents believe not necessary to explain the rules or the reasons for the behavior of children.The main argument for them is that their kids are doing something against the rules, and must bear the punishment for it.Often the penalties are very strict.If the children ask their parents about the conditions of the implementation of one or another job, they hear one answer: "Because I said so (a)."Parents who use this method, they want to keep everything under control.They raise their children according to the rules, which they must adhere.Children deprived of their liberty at the same time.The discipline shown by the method of reward and punishment, and nothing else.Children quickly learn to listen to their parents for the sake of rewards, often they are simply afraid of their parents.The children either live with it and learn to think about themselves, or rebel against the authoritarian practices of their parents.
This method is complete permissiveness.Parents who use this method may fear that children will not love them, or just be friends for the children, so they do not set their conditions and boundaries.Such parents give children freedom of action, and instill in them any responsibility.As children are the parents understand that they can not cope with their bad behavior.Children of such parents are irresponsible, have problems in relationships and believe the world is too complicated for themselves.Not fair to bring up children without installing framework or permanently change them.Children do not want freedom without limits.
This democratic method of education.The "do as I say, and do not ask questions" over.This means that parents and children are equal - not to the life experience and education, but in essence.From an early age parents clearly form for themselves the expected result of education and establish a framework to achieve it.Kids can choose to teach them to accept the consequences and to show the importance of their decisions.Granting the right choice balances feelings of freedom and responsibility.Children who are in control of their own lives and make decisions that work well in the future and respect themselves.Parents encourage children and acknowledge their good behavior.They use methods of discipline, by which children learn, rather than waiting for a reward or punishment.