How to choose a wife, and not to regret their choice?
Men love to pretend that they are only interested in career and self-development, but not the family and procreation.Nevertheless, a representative of the male sex at least once in your life think about the question of how to choose a wife.Few longs start deliberately failed marriage, so the choice of a life partner should be treated responsibly.
Most men seeking good wife, and this is their main mistake.Search wife does not need a good and appropriate, that is compatible with this particular man.It is much more reasonable than spending years of his life in the attempt to come to some kind of common denominator, and to find compromises.
can write for a list of virtues that should have future wife, and then highlight a few of them (three to five, no more) the most important and not to be guided in choosing them.Even more importantly, so that the pair were incompatible disadvantages.Of course, everyone wants to find a partner who has no flaws at all, however, the search for a wife are unlikely to be effective.But so constituted man, that some disadvantages it relates more loyal than others.Someone easily forgives women talkativeness and inconsistency, someone is willing to reconcile with modest mental abilities, someone completely will not survive if the chosen one does not know how to cook, and someone just be delighted to learn that the lover does not want to have children.At the same time, the same as other disadvantages can be the basis for a breakup.
Before you marry a girl should get to know her.On what to pay attention?
- readiness for marriage.This includes the ability to make a partner for what it is;willingness to compromise;responsibility.Many girls dream of getting married in kindergarten, but it does not mean that they are ready for marriage.But the ability to give, for example, some of their habits for the sake of family life - a good sign;
- maturity.Many men dream of young wives.But if a girl at the time of marriage has not really formed personality, a few years later it turns out that the spouses - of others, in fact, people.At the same time unformed personality does not mean that a girl can "raise" for themselves - usually, such attempts did not lead to the desired result;
- Ideas about family life.She believes that life in the family - a permanent holiday?In her view, the problem of women - to decorate their presence a man's life, the husband should support her, to entertain, to care and to bestow flowers and jewelry?Perhaps we should think twice before to marry this charming establishment;
- Attitude to life.On domestic issues broke not one family boat.If the beloved does not even know how to cook sandwiches - it does not matter, culinary skills can be learned.But if it categorically does not want to participate in solving everyday problems, you have to choose: either to take a life for themselves, or to find a housekeeper, or look for another wife;
- attitude to money.Excessive extravagance as disagreeable as excessive greed.The concept of standards when it determines the future husband on the basis of their own financial situation, experience and relationships to finances;
- towards children.As a rule, creating a family, people tend to plan over time to procreate.Does she have children?If not, whether it is ready to undergo treatment or take the child from the orphanage?And maybe it is - convinced the representative of the movement "Child-free"?Or, conversely, dream of a large family, and hopes that in ten years, her choice will contain a minimum of five siblings?All of these nuances is better to agree in advance.If a woman already has children, you should think about how to establish a relationship with them;
- parent family.Psychologists say that children tend to repeat the fate of their parents and live on the same principles.If a potential mother-in-law seems to be very unpleasant woman, it is worth considering that the young wife of twenty years could be the same.If the bride's father - a typical "henpecked", it is possible that in the new family to her husband preparing a similar place.Of course, the relationship may not be as obvious, moreover, chosen one can be the exact opposite of the mother, and yet look at the relationship in the genitive family is more closely;
- past experience.Her father - a drunken alcoholic, previous husband was a drug addict, and first love first love: joy or injury for a lifetime? lost all salary at the casino?There is a possibility that this girl knows how to build a relationship with only one (and not the best) the type of men.It is amenable to correction, but only if the girl herself wants to learn to live differently, not inclined to blame their misfortunes of others;
- relationship with my mother.Mothers often have a huge impact on the daughters.This can be good, but often harms the relationship of two.It is much better if the girl was separated from her mother and became more or less independent.
Few couples today resolved to issue a marriage without having lived together before this.At the same time, many women are unregistered marriages negative: it seems that this form of relationship humiliates them.To a woman in a civil marriage did not feel wounded, it is best to agree in advance about the date of her wedding when life together would be satisfactory for both partners.Typically, to determine compatibility in a life it is enough six months of living together: after six months, it is already possible to draw conclusions about whether to communicate with the woman of his life.
better represent his beloved friends and relatives as a bride, not as a wife or a girlfriend: the most accurately determine its status will not cause too many questions and not put the girl in an awkward position.If life together show that the choice was made to fail, you can always terminate the engagement and to declare it familiar.