If after a divorce you are thinking about how to return to her husband, first of all, answer yourself the question: why do you need it.Extremely honest.It's not impossible, but the start is only if you can find really good reasons for wanting to return to a former spouse.Otherwise you risk to spend a lot of time and energy that finally feel again disappointed.If you want to try it - follow the advice listed below, but do not forget that the former husband - a man with his mind, and if he did not intend to return, sooner or later you will have to live with it.
Do not worry and be happy
While you are trying to return to her husband, life goes on.M Meet friends, gave the work as long as it could not before, get a hobby - do not dive into feelings about the separation.Maybe soon you will meet a man who will replace the former husband of the heart from the memory.And perhaps you will encounter anywhere with ex-husband, and your happy look make him think seriously.
Control your emotions
If it happened, you suddenly met with ex-husband politely said hello.Even if you want to express everything that had accumulated since your separation - blithely say that you are all well (if he asks), and go on about their business.In meetings with his relatives, colleagues and friends also should not give way to anger.Inconvenient and too personal to answer questions the best that it's your total business and you personally do not consider it possible to discuss their relationship, even with her ex-husband.If you "wash dirty linen in public", the husband is unlikely to want to return.
Consider the psychology of men
Do not try to convince your husband to return.Most men are proud of their determination (real or perceived) and will not change his mind, if only because that is how they feel brave enough.Pressure can easily erase any chance of his return.It is much more effective to act so that he came to the conclusion that he wanted to come back to you - your own decision will be much harder to resist.
Or at least do not show jealousy.Look closely at the woman he chose.If you will ignore the feelings, you will be able to see what he lacked.Do not be afraid to see her in something better than you - perhaps this experience will inspire you to change something for the better in yourself.Or realize that you are beautiful just be what you are and no one is to be changed against his will.If you see the possibilities in a situation, it will be easier to cope with jealousy Jealousy and what to do with it .It is a natural feeling, but it constrains your thinking.To change the situation in their favor, it should be free.
Make him jealous
your ex-husband can be in love with another woman, but to see you with another man he would still unpleasant.Make new friends, have fun - learn to enjoy life without him.
not call him
If all divorce cases are settled, do not call him, even just to ask how he was doing.If he calls himself, answer politely and with restraint;before the conversation will appear awkward pause, say they were glad to hear it, but you've got to go, we wish him a good day and hang up.
Work on your looks
Change your hair style, clothing style, regularly go to the gym, visit beauty salons.If the results of your efforts will not appreciate the former husband will appreciate someone else - and, above all, yourself.Do not doubt that he will notice a change;maybe he wants to understand what causes it - and get to know you again.
Wait, but not too long
Wait action on his part, but also accustom themselves to the idea that he can truly love another woman, or simply do not want to live with you.Learn to live their lives and see you once or ex-husband at his doorstep, or realize that they have become happier without him.